5 Behaviors that Reveal Verbal Abuse in a Relationship

Verbal Abuse is now very common in the society. It is characterized by underlying anger and hostility. It is a destructed form of communication intended to harm the self-concept of the other person and produce negative emotions.

                In many cases, verbal abuse is something visible and potentially causing injury, but not too obvious. At these times, recognizing verbal abuse is not always easy.

                How would you know when you are feeling unsafe because of someone’s words instead of their actions? Here are 5 behaviors that reveal the said abuse in a relationship.

1.       They take Away your Independence

Signs of verbal abuse include manipulation. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, a verbally abusive loved one tells you when you can or cannot leave the house and even decide what you can wear. This controlling partner may diminish your independence in other ways. If this is the case, you should step back and assess the situation.

2.       They Intimidate or Threaten You

Some of the clearest signs of verbal abuse are the most dangerous and unacceptable. Threats and intimidation are surely cannot be ignored.

You should never be in a situation in which your loved one makes you feel unloved and unsafe. If you feel threatened and scared by their actions, seek help from someone you trust. 

Silent intimidation is also considered as a verbal abuse. Body language makes up more than half of all communication, and intimidating body language is a major no-no in a relationship.

3.       They Pressure You Into Doing Things that You Don’t Want to Do

Pressuring you of doing something you don’t want to do is a definitely a form of abuse that may not be easily recognizable.  Coercive loved ones might convince you that you owe them favors because of your relationship. If this is the case you should weigh up things and look at the situation objectively, then decide what is best to do to stop the abuse.

4.       They Gaslight You

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation used to make victims question themselves and their own sanity. If your loved-one is gaslighting you, they may tell you unconcealed lies or say that you are making up stories or imagining things. This is a kind of manipulation tactics; and it takes place and grows over time. However, it might not be something you notice at first. We all occasionally feel that we are too sensitive, but if you are constantly second guessing yourself because your point of view is always questioned, then you are being gaslighted by your abusive loved-one. Ask someone you trust for their objective opinion and remind yourself that you are not always wrong.

5.       They Make You Feel Worthless

An abusive loved one may offhandedly tell you that you do everything wrong; or that you are a bad person and you are worthless. In addition, verbal abuse can be the absence of verbalizing. Your loved-ones “silent treatment” is a dangerous tool used to ignore needs of another person that makes them feel as if they are not worth it. Try to remove yourself from these situations. Be positive about yourself and seek validation and refuge with supportive family and friends.

                Verbal Abuse can be difficult for a victim to recognize. That is why it is important to know the signs of verbal abuse. If you or someone you care about is in a potentially abusive relationship, then seek out a path of safety.